Why Your Feelings Keep You Playing Small

by | Oct 18, 2013 | Uncategorized


Are you allowing your feelings to keep you playing small in your life?


The truth is: Your feelings don’t matter.

I am referring to the stories that defined you as a child:

All the injustices that you suffered. . .

All the times that you were abandoned, ignored, rejected, overlooked, betrayed, abused. . .


It doesn’t really matter.

This may seem heartless to you. But if I don’t tell you this, who will?

You may be so fascinated with your stories that you keep stewing in the muck of your life.

You use your excuses to stay stuck. You blame people, outside circumstances, your love life, or your kids, on where you are falling short of your vision.

I say this with complete love.

Because I stayed stuck in the shadows of my life for many years.

The story of my life goes like this:

My parents divorced when I was ten. Their split up was a complete shock since they never argued.  Shortly after, my father received orders from the military to move. He was a test pilot. And I was left behind with a childlike mother who left her marriage of 10 years for an abusive alcoholic boyfriend. My father quickly remarried and started a new family. There’s much more, but you can get the idea…

So yes, those stories can be fascinating.
We give those stories so much energy to justify our present circumstances.

Why we are the way we are….

I used that story to justify my addictions and risky behavior in my teens and twenties. I spent years on a couch with a therapist. But I never got well.

That is why I prefer energy work to psychoanalysis. It’s so much more empowering to clear the emotional charge to these stories, to release the energetic weight of limiting beliefs.

If you want to create a different pattern in your life, you need to do something drastic to change.

Sometimes, clients will come to me with such interesting stories. But we can clear the emotional blocks and limiting beliefs.

When you remove the energetic weeds, you can recover your truth:

You are always fully supported.

You are getting all the help and support that you need.

You are worthy of success.

You are worthy to be cherished and loved.

Are you invested in the stories of your past? Or are you invested in your vision?

Take a moment to reflect upon your thoughts. Where does your mind tend to wander?

By directing your thoughts, you choose the past or the present…

What society, the government, our cultural consciousness fails to tell you: is that you can choose your thoughts, and create your life.

You are a creator, born in the image of God. And you have unlimited possibilities all around you. You just need to wake up and choose to bring them into your reality.

But that line of thinking does not garner votes or sell more beer, cola, or television programming.

You can choose poverty or prosperity.

It all begins with a thought.

Followed By action.

If you liked or disliked this post, share your thoughts in the comment box below.

14 Comments

  1. Julie

    SO powerful, Tera! EVERYBODY needs to read and absorb this post! So so so true!!

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    • Tera

      Thanks, Julie. I always appreciate your shares!

      Reply
  2. Ferry Fleurimond

    These principles should be lucid and common in our society but I believe that they are still so esoteric to most people, unfortunately. These are pivotal points to entertain, and I’ll be looking forward to learning more from you and about what you do.

    Ferry Fleurimond

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    • Tera

      Hi Ferry,
      I believe it’s time to wake up. Prosperity is more than just making money. But we can help each other better when we are not struggling.

      Glad to hear from you!
      Tera

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  3. karen

    yeah, we can waste life shadow-boxing

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    • Tera

      True, it’s more fun to come out of the shadows.

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  4. Kellie

    Tera,
    This post is right on. We do allow our thoughts to rule our inaction or action. The thing is, we get to choose. We have to leave the victim mindset behind and clear the blocks that often times hinder our entire lives. Thanks to you for being honest and forthright.

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    • Tera

      Thanks, Kellie. It’s been a topic that I think about a lot. Our mindset really determines our success. Fortunately, we can choose.

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  5. Isabelle

    Everybody as a story, more or less heavy… We tend to believe that we are made by our past… We are much bigger that our past and our thoughts… Gosh !! The mind is a tool like our hands and we have to use them wisely in order to create. The same with the mind, to create the right thoughts ! Thank you Tera, for remembering us that we can choose the right thought, every moment ! Blessings

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    • Tera

      Yes, Isabelle. We are much bigger than our past. When Iam still in a messy place, I like to fast forward and think how I’ll feel about this situation from the eternities. Maybe I would laugh?

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  6. karen

    i’m writing a song about shadow boxing

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    • Tera

      Share a few lines when you are done, Karen. We’d love to hear. I like the metaphor.

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  7. Scott

    Hi Tera,
    Because of the many lessons my parents gave me to learn from, I started early. But sadly/gladly my real truths started coming in my fifties after my then wife left.
    There are many learning gifts that are parents give us that we don’t realize we have till we have a major reason to realize them. So my wife was sent to start my path to deeper enlightenment.
    I have talked to many people in my life who will tell you to just get over it. It’s time you put your childhood behind you, it’s time to grow up and forgive the past. Just let go of that anger.
    I did forgive my parents, they still don’t get it and that must make life very hard for them.
    But I had no idea of the things I carried with me, anyhow and how they sabotaged my life.
    I realized that deep inside I had my dad constantly telling me what a loser I am. That when I met people I knew that no-matter how much they seemed to like me, I knew they were laughing at me/disliking me behind my back. This is hot something that I realized consciously until I figured it out a year or so ago. Now I have to keep reminding myself, that nobody could know about my dad and his opinions and that I didn’t deserve this.
    There is so much we just don’t know and I am sure I wouldn’t have listened till it was time for me to.
    I think life can be a real strange place to live. I think for G-d to be perfect, G-d puts insanity into our minds and expects us to work it out and become clear for when we go back.
    I like what you write, keep up the good work.
    Best
    Scott

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    • Tera

      Thank you for sharing, Scott. Yes, I don’t think we just need to gloss over our stories. But that we uncover the lessons (and gifts as you share) so we can move on.

      It is tempting to stay stuck in the story. And staying there is a form of self-imposed bondage.

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