Generational Memories and Healing

by | Jul 2, 2012 | Uncategorized

“Mom, I am allergic to mayonnaise,” my 5-year-old recently informed me so he could avoid the creamy spread. Why did he loath it? Especially when my husband and perhaps his family considered a generous amount essential to a sandwich or burger?

My son didn’t know that my own family vehemently detested mayonnaise, so much that it was a family joke, like when we teased Dad he was eating mayonnaise ice cream to see him almost vomit. Was my boy’s aversion just an individual dislike or an inherited family memory? 

An aversion to mayonnaise may be a family tendency, but what about other shared traits? In your family tree is there a pattern of addiction, alcohol abuse, sexual abuse, or depression? Do people in your family tree struggle with money? Is there stubbornness or rigid thinking? Is life a struggle? How has illness manifested in your genealogy? 

I began my doctoral work with a hunch: there was something troubling underneath the surface of Filipino cultural memory.  A kind of trauma, barely even classified as trauma, has been passed down generationally. I was researching the effects of six centuries of colonial history in the Philippines. I described it as an everyday angst, that somehow the American dream had slipped by us, as Filipino Americans, even though we might have accumulated the material trappings of American success. 

The legacy of colonial trauma among Filipinos is a form of generational memory. But unlike many scholars of trauma studies, I believe that generational memory is not simply a collective memory, or shared memory that forges a group identity, but an energetic memory that lingers in our DNA. 

You may ask, why should you care? For two reasons, 1) there are generational memories that you have inherited, that are not necessarily your own issues; and 2) generational memories do not have to define you. You can release the generational baggage! As an Energy Detox Coach, I have seen the results firsthand for my clients and my family. 

Life can be challenging enough without carrying around our ancestors’ energetic baggage. What generational tendencies do you see in yourself and your family? And what have you done to prune your family tree? I invite you to share your comments below.

2 Comments

  1. Vashti

    I remember, clearly, the day I heard traditional Celtic music for the first time. It was as if shutters had been lifted in my mind, and light was pouring in.

    I resonated, somehow, as if I understood a secret language – encapsulated in lilting tunes and mournful melodies.

    I was intrigued, and wanted to know what this meant. Some time after, I discovered my ‘roots’ went back to Celtic Irish.

    I had never been told this before. I had never thought about my ‘roots’ very much. But I have no way of knowing how I ‘knew’ – so intimately, so resonantly – that this was ‘my’ music… speaking to and through me…

    It could only have been passed down through DNA.

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    • Tera

      Beautiful words, Vashti. I love how you point out the positive connection we share with our ancestors. I often focus on the blocks to clear from our ancestral line (because it is something we may intuitively know, but we are not aware that it is simple to release the energetic pattern). At the same time, we have much to be gained by acknowledging the legacy our ancestors leave us.

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