Are you secretly proud of your perfectionism? Let’s be honest.
Years ago, if you called me a perfectionist, I felt flattered. It was a compliment.
I donned perfectionism like a badge of honor. I was the perfect straight A student, unless I got a B on a paper. I’d sabotage the entire semester.
I dropped out of school. Crazy?, I know.
Your perfectionism may not show up as such a blatant form of self-sabotage. But even if you are mildly afflicted with this subtle disease, your perfectionism is standing in the way of reaching your true potential.
Your pride in perfectionism is thwarting your own success. Why is this so?
Because to realize your potential, you have to accept that the road to success is paved with mistakes and failures.
The successful are comfortable with making mistakes. Michael Jordan says, “I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.” Thomas Edison failed 10,000 times before he finally invented a successful light bulb.
The successful don’t like mistakes. But they understand that making mistakes is just part of the process.
When perfectionism is subtle, it is even more insidious.
Here are 9 subtle ways to perfectionism still lurks in your life:
A dear friend of mine once gave me feedback on a video series I recorded last year. She pointed out the lighting and shadows were distracting. I still have much to learn about lighting. But with 3 young children at home and a barking dog, I knew that if I waited until I got everything perfect, I would never complete the project.
As a perfectionist in recovery, I used to think that because I make mistakes, look silly on videos, or send out emails with typos, that I am no longer a perfectionist. But I confess, there are still places where perfectionism still lurks.
But by identifying the subtle forms of perfectionism, we can release these habits that our preventing us from reaching our fullest potential.
After identifying your perfectionism, ask yourself: what is perfectionism is costing you?
Is it costing you connecting to your kids and your husband?
Is it costing you getting that project launched into the world?
Is it costing you other opportunities to share your gifts with others?
Is it costing you money?
Perfectionism prevents us from connecting to our self, to our family and friends, to our bodies, to our gifts, and to our abundance.
Stay tuned for next Tuesday’s video, when I teach you 3 ways to eliminate perfectionism.
P.S. I am opening up my schedule for 5 slots to help the super-committed. If you are serious about realizing your vision in 2014 and are ready to stop standing in your own way of success, click here to schedule.