#1 Reason You are Not Getting What You Really Want

by | Oct 15, 2013 | Uncategorized

#1 Reason You are Not Getting What You Really WantIf you really knew the power of your thoughts, you’d stop thinking.

These words blazoned  through my mind with clarity.

When I shared with my husband, we both shook with laughter, the kind that feels good, deep from the belly.

The truth is: we cannot stop thinking.

60,000 thoughts stream through your mind on any given day. And often, the majority of them are negative. You cannot stop the flow of your thoughts.

But you can choose the thoughts that filter through your conscious mind.

Are you worried about your ability to launch a successful summit?

  • Are you enrolled in a program and doubting whether you will get the successful results?
  • Are wishy-washy about whether or not you can fill a program?
  • Do you think that it is hard to launch a successful business when you have a full-time job?
  • Do you think that it is hard to meet the man of your dreams?
  • Do you find it difficult to be a good mother?
  • Do you believe that your man (or woman) is not really supportive? Or do you often think: we just are not on the same page?

Guess what you are creating?

Clients comes to me for transformational energy work. And energy work releases the trigger behind a particular thought. Together, we discover the energetic root of an issue. And we dive in and remove the root.

But energy work is not magic. It works through the power of intention. The foundational principle is that light dispels darkness.

With less generational and childhood baggage, it is easier to choose positive thoughts. You feel empowered. You are able to step into your intrinsic role as the creator of your own life.

Minus the burden of your family beliefs and generational patterns, you are able to create new patterns.

But you still retain the agency to choose your thoughts.

A month ago, I invited my friend and professional organizer Ginny Hall over to my house to clear the clutter in my office. For 3 hours, she helped me handle every piece of paper. We either filed it or tossed it in the garbage.

I loved eyeing the walnut sheen of my desk. No clutter. What a beautiful space to work in! But a day or two later, I discovered a pile of papers in another room in the house. I carried the papers into my office.

The clutter started again. And more mail piled in a basket.

In 2 days, papers were strewn across the desk.

With intention, I forced myself to commit to making a decision on every piece of paper. The paper pile disappeared because I set my intention to clear the clutter.

Your mind acts the same way. Whether you are investing in energy work to clear your blocks, or you are shifting on your own, the key to creating lasting transformation, the key to success, is to transform your thoughts.

I find it curious that people are so keen to scrimp and save when it comes to investing in themselves and their business.

But the truth is: 
You cannot afford these thoughts.

So next time you have a thought that may be impacting your ability to create success, attract the love of your life, or nurture your health,

just say, “I cannot afford this thought.”

And you will be speaking the truth. It’s the only time “I cannot afford it” will serve your ability to manifest what you want.


  1. Deanna

    This has been your best post by far!!! We can’t afford to have those negative thoughts. What a way to look at that. Thank you for the insight. I know I’ll use this often.

    • Tera

      Yes, “we cannot afford to think like this.” Whenever I start to go down that road of gossip and/ or negativity, I remind myself this… Thanks for taking the time to share your thoughts, Deanna.


  2. Susan Jenkins

    Thank you for your wise and clear reminders here. With light, Susan Jenkins

    • Tera

      My pleasure, Susan… Thanks for participating in the conversation.


  3. Allyson

    Wonderful post today! Thank you for sharing your wisdom.

    • Tera

      I’m glad it resonated with you, Allyson.


  4. April

    I agree with Deanna. I think this is also my favorite blog post so far and already feel a shift in my energy. Thank you, Tera, for such valuable insight!

    • Tera

      It is my pleasure, April. Thanks for sharing your comment.

  5. Tanya Ormsby

    This remimds me of watching’ the secret’ the first time and thinking “what have I been thinking”. I get kind of scared every time there is questioning about what i am doing and I almost want to run and hide in my cave again.So I need to focus on what I want and how to get there.

    • Tera

      Yes, focus is a very powerful tool to get traction in creating our dreams. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Tanya!

  6. Roxanne

    This was exactly what I needed to hear! I cannot afford more of the same negative thinking starting now! My power is always in the present moment. 🙂

    • Tera

      So happy to hear it, Roxanne!

  7. Lunedi

    This is the first time I have visited this site. And this is the first time also I realized the meaning of the words “I cannot afford it”. I know I can’t afford it but still I continue doing or entertaining negative things in my life – not only thoughts but also deeds. Thank you Tera. I hope I can change my life for the better. And I hope that I can get rid of those blocks in my thoughts.

    • Tera

      Thanks for stopping by, Lunedi. You are welcome!


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