Are you giving away your power?

3 Steps to Reclaim Your PowerWhen you give away your power, you dim your brilliance. Your action contradicts your inner purpose. You are here on earth is to shine, to radiate love.

Anything less than living your truth does not feel good.

The paradox lies in the space of what if’s: between where you are now and where you are going.

You may fear that moving forward may cause your world to change.

And yes, it’s true.

You may re-assess your marriage and the gaping hole inside of you. And what if you leave? What will happen to the children? To your home? To the comfortable security of what is today?

Or what if you leave your current job? What will be waiting on the other side?

Or what will your friends and loved ones say, if you pursue this next step? Will you grow out of the old familial story? Will you be left alone?

Or what if you fire your current clients? Will you attract new clients whom you love? Will you have enough to replace what no longer feels good?

The earliest story in our ancestral memory illustrates the power of following one’s vision.

Remember Adam and Eve?

Eve made a decision that aligned with her purpose, as mother of all living. She decided to eat the forbidden fruit to become knowing, like God. And Eve went to Adam and persuaded him that he should eat the fruit also.

For centuries, mainstream Christianity vilified Eve for disobeying God’s law. After all, Adam and Eve were exiled from the Garden of Eden for their sin.

But I share another reading:

Adam and Eve were living in a state of perpetual innocence. They were like children, not knowing their own nakedness.

Our first parents were commanded “to multiply and replenish the earth.” They could not obey this commandment in their state of innocence.

The two commandments to procreate and to abstain from the Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil posed a dilemma.

Yet Eve had an inner vision, to honor her own becoming.  

She did not wait for Adam’s approval. She acted as a leader. She inspired Adam to come with her. And the rest is history.

We incorrectly associate the motherly role with martyrdom, but Eve was not a victim or a martyr.

This generational memory of our first earthly mother is a legacy for us to recall.

Are you allowing your husband (or your wife or a family member) to hold you back? Are you using your marriage or your kids as an excuse to play small?


Here are 3 ways to reclaim your power:

1. Go back to your why.

What is your vision? Write it down. Express your vision in vivid details.

If your vision does not fire you up, then revise your vision. You need to connect deeply to your why. Just changing the world or helping others is not enough to motivate you to break through your blocks.

Eve was willing to face exile from the Garden of Eden to follow her vision. Capture that burring fire within to do whatever it takes (with integrity) to attain your vision. Your success depends upon it.

2. Take the next step.

Every day take action to move you toward your vision. It doesn’t matter if you don’t feel like picking up the phone. Or going to a networking event.

If going on strategy calls will get you to your vision, then take the calls. When you take the next inspired action, you are standing in your power.

Regardless of the outcome.

Everyday action is the footwork of success.

3. Observe and reduce the negative mind chatter.

Your response to challenges and setbacks determines your trajectory of success. But your response is entirely up to you.

Do you meet disappointment and berate yourself? Or do you see what you can improve upon, but detach from judging yourself?

If you are deeply connected to your why and you are taking inspired action, hurray!

You are a success! Do you understand that you are doing what 97% of the population are not doing?

You are standing in the vibration of success! The vibration is unattached to how much money you have in your bank account, or how many clients you enrolled this month.

If you continue on this path–regardless of how many times you failed–your success is inevitable.

I know that success is inevitable because I have studied the successful. If they all embody these qualities, then you can adapt these habits too. 

The challenge lies when you judge the failures and decide to back off or give up,  just before the miracle happens.

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